In the busy world of motherhood women can loose their sexual drive, do you have any tips on how to regain sexual confidence?

It is natural for women to loose their sexual drive to the maternal force of motherhood. Biochemically, as our bond grows with our offspring, it often lessens with our partner. Attempting to fulfill multiple social roles also commonly leads to fatigue. Add to this, a truckload of weekly laundry, and you can see why many of us don’t feel sexy. The main way to redirect this current is to consciously, selfishly prioritise the couple. Adult time need not necessitate sex, but it does require on-one-one focus.

When mothers gain weight post pregnancy, the weight can affect her body confidence and sexual drive in the bedroom, do you have any tips on how mothers can overcome this dilemma and become more confident?

Sadly, the way we look—or, in fact, the way we perceive ourselves to look in comparison to unrealistic ideals—affects our sexual self-esteem. One of the biggest hurdles to post-pregnancy sexual drive is dissatisfaction with our newly changed bodies. Some women grow to accept these changes, honoring their body for its miraculous feat, while others battle with diet and exercise. The truth is, women generally feel like having sex when they feel beautiful—and most don’t feel beautiful enough.

Do you have any suggestions on how mothers can spice up their sex life and regain their sexual energy?

Go to bed early, and naked! Once the kids are down, grab your partner, disrobe, and get into bed. Hang out there for a while and—without forcing anything—see what happens. Chances are, if you incorporate this ritual into your week, overtime something might. Such as gravity, bodies naturally come together on their own.

Do you have any closing advice for the Mothers Get Inspired readers?

Kiss you partner everyday. A kiss with an open mouth says we are in this together; we are more than just friends.

About Dr.Bella Ellwood-Clayton 

Bella Ellwood-Clayton was born in Melbourne, Australia; daughter of avant garde composer and playwright Syd Clayton. At a young age, Bella moved to Canada. She completed a Bachelor of Arts in 1999 from Concordia University, majoring in anthropology. Her honours thesis examined beauty cross-culturally. She received first class honours and was the recipient of the Mark Doughty Scholarship.

Soon after, with a crew from National Geographic, Bella took to the jungle to explore tattoo and social change in the Mentawai Islands of Indonesia. This documentary continues to air from a wide range of international locations.

In 2000 Bella was offered a full PhD scholarship. She conducted an ethnography in the central Philippines about young women’s sexual and reproductive health, going on to speak about love and technology at conferences in Asia, Europe, America and Australia and publishing her work in a number of prestigious academic anthologies. She also taught undergraduate classes about mobile telephony at Hallym University, in Korea.

Throughout her postgraduate degree Bella was the recipient of numerous grants, scholarships and traveling bursaries. In 2004 she completed her thesis from The Key Centre for Women’s Health in Society, WHO Collaborating Centre, The University of Melbourne.

After spending time in Canada, on a novel and working as an ‘extra’ and body double for film and television, Bella returned to Australia to write a sex and relationship column for the newspaper mX – published in Sydney, Melbourne and Brisbane. She then accepted the role of Sextxt ambassador, a service that provides sexual health information to Australian youth.

Bella regularly contributes to magazines Women’s Health and Cosmopolitan and appears on radio, television and gives public talks. At present, she offers advice about love and sex on channel 7’s Sunrise and The Morning Show and Triple M Rush Hour, and pens articles for Sunday Life magazine, which appears in the Melbourne Age and Sydney Sun-Herald. Her book about female sexuality, ‘Sex drive: in pursuit of female desire’ was published with critical success last year in Australia (Allen & Unwin)–and will hit the American market in the coming months. Bella provides individual and couple consultations, by email, telephone or in-person.

WEBSITE www.drbella.com.au

Desmore chats to Australia’s leading recruitment expert Sarina Russo

For the stay at home mother who has been out of her career for some time, where does she start to try and regain her confidence to go back into the workforce?

Returning to work doesn’t have to be a daunting or scary experience whether due to cost of living pressures or because you want another string to your bow other than just being a great mum.

It’s only natural to be nervous and doubt your own ability, particularly if you’ve been out of the workforce for years. The most important thing is not to be afraid and ask for help when it comes to resumes preparation, interview techniques and access to family friendly employers.

Sarina Russo Job Access (Centrelink registered parents) and Russo Recruitment (non-Centrelink registered parents) both have plans to help parents become job-ready to give you the confidence, skills and, if eligible, training to become a valuable staff member.

Sarina Russo Job Access will:

• Identify parental skills, which relate to today’s employment market;

• Inform you of local childcare and community help options and financial support available;

• Inform you on the current local labour market and types of jobs/industries available

• Recommend relevant job-ready training (eligibility requirements);

• Mentor you and assist you into work; and

• Find meaningful employment for parents.

In regards to mothers heading back into the workforce do you have any advice on how best they can market themselves in a positive way?

There is so much talent in our local suburbs and local business do benefit when parents return to work.  In today’s world a  smart employer is a flexible employer which means parents returning to the workforce are a perfect fit because they want flexible hours which suits most small and medium businesses,”

As a parent returning to the workforce you need to realise that you have so much to offer employers because you are an untapped source of good quality, flexible labour.

You are a perfect fit for most small and medium businesses because you have great organisational and time management skills which are directly transferable to the workforce.

It’s obvious, when you manage a home with children you learn how to manage people, you know how to negotiate and to keep calm in stressful situations. When we talk with employers they tell us they are looking for staff to go the extra mile, demonstrate a strong work ethic, are flexible and adaptable, and are team players with a positive attitude.Sounds like a position description for being a parent. Think about all your parenting skills you have learnt along the way and use them as your employment points of difference.

From your career experience can you suggest the best way for mothers to avoid those back to work jitters? 

Self-belief is a powerful career tool. It’s not what happens to you in your career – it’s how you interpret it.

I was regularly fired as a legal secretary, and self-belief with a positive outlook helped me overcome adversity and start my own business in September 1979.

Getting back into work or re-starting your career is all about reengineering yourself and conquering fear.

It’s about being prepared to push through any challenge and see opportunities. Only then can you discover your true capacity and potential – What you perceive, you can achieve.

My top ten tips are to:

1.             Stay inspired;

2.             Be the person you want to be;

3.             Empower yourself through self-talk;

4.             Associate with positive people

5.             Never take things personally;

6.             Always look for silver linings;

7.             Build and enhance relationships;

8.             Practice lifelong learning to constantly re-invent yourself;

9.             Safeguard your health and fitness; and

10.          Celebrate your successes.

Do you have any suggestion regarding what to wear to an interview to look sharp and impress?

First impressions count so what you wear to your job interview will determine if you get the job.  The problem in today’s workforce there is no hard and fast ‘how to dress’ rule.

But with today’s technology you can do some valuable research.  Look at the company’s website, Facebook and LinkedIn page for clues. If the dress code still isn’t clear don’t be shy to ask the person offering the interview or ring the company’s HR Department for advice.  The advantage to being proactive in this way is the employer will appreciate your attention to detail and consideration of company culture.

Some basic rules:

• Don’t wear skin-tight or excessively baggy clothing;

• Too much skin is a no-no — no shorts, short skirts, or low-cut shirts

• Close-toed shoes in good condition is preferable and those opting for a heal should keep it to a couple of inches or less

• Accessories shouldn’t be too flashy

• Hair should be well groomed

• Avoid perfume (some people are allergic)

• Makeup should be subtle

• Nails should be clean; if wearing polish, choose a natural color

• Comfort is king — don’t wear anything that will distract you or make you visibly awkward

Do you have any other advice on helping Mothers Get Inspired readers in regards to personal confidence?

At Sarina Russo Job Access we share Ten Tips with our jobseekers that help them get hired.

1.             Look your best

2.             Arrive on time

3.             Convey the message that you are competent and reliable

4.             Dress for the job you want

5.             Use a firm handshake and good eye contact

6.             Ask questions

7.             Master the art of small talk

8.             Use a person’s name when talking

9.             Use a confident, assertive tone

10.          Say what you mean

SARINA’S ACHIEVEMENTS

• Founder and Managing Director of Sarina Russo Group of Companies, a leader in education, training and employment since 1979 consisting of:

 - Employment businesses – Sarina Russo Job Access (Australia & Great Britain); Russo Recruitment; Sarina Russo Apprenticeship Services; VOICE Psychologists and Allied Professionals and

- Educational Businesses – Sarina Russo Institute and James Cook University Brisbane;

- Philanthropic Businesses – Sarina Russo Global Initiative (not-for-profit arm) and Sarina Russo Foundation

- Property Business – Sarina Investments & Sarina Russo White House (property and Maintenance).

• Member of Clinton Global Initiative since 2008

• Member of the Women’s Leadership Board of the John F. Kennedy School of Government (Harvard Business School) since 2003

• Former member of Board of Directors, Challenger Financial Services (2006 – 2008)

• Recognised in Paris as one of the forty Leading Women Entrepreneurs of the World in 2002. A member of the Leading Women Entrepreneurs World Advisory Board since 2006

• A graduate of the Harvard Business School (USA) Owner/President Management Program

• Youngest and first female member of the Queensland Chapter of the International Young Presidents’ Organisation (YPO) and now a member of the World Presidents’ Organisation (WPO)

• Member of the Queensland Premier’s Advisory Board since 2000

• Chairman and Trustee of the Jupiter’s Casino Community Benefit Fund since 1995

• Member of the Queensland Education and Training Export Board (2002 – 2010)

• Member of the Council for Multicultural Australia Board (2005 – 2006).

• Member of the Queensland Tourism Board (2002 – 2009)

• Member of the Lord Mayor’s Community Trust Board (1995 – 2010)

• Member of the Australiana Fund to raise funds to acquire and preserve a permanent collection of art works that are Australian by origin or by association

• Appointed Honorary Ambassador for the City of Brisbane by the then Lord Mayor Jim Soorley in 1996

• Awarded the Multicultural Achievers Award by Queensland Government by Queensland Premier Peter Beattie in 2006

• Won the Women in Business Award – Personal and Other Services Industry category in 2006

• Recipient of the Centenary Medal for distinguished service to education in 2001

• Entrepreneurial Judge (Dragon) on Channel Seven’s international reality television show Dragons’ Den (2005). Other Dragon’s include Simon Reynolds Creative Director, Love Communications; Peter Higgins Founder of Mortgage Choice; Darryn Lyons Chairman & CEO BIG Group of Companies; and Suzi Dafnis Director, Pow Wow Events

• Celebrated 25 years as on-air host of television infomercial – ‘How to Get That Job’

• Co-authored a motivational biography and business book “Meet me at the Top” with Russ Gleeson in 2002

• Elected by the people of Queensland as one of the Australian Republican Movement delegates to the Australian Constitution Convention in Canberra in 1998

For more information please visit www.SarinaRussoJobAccess.com.au

What does a Spiritual commentator do?

I see myself as a spokesperson for the spiritual industry as a whole, educating the public on our most recent scientific and spiritual insights.  My desire is to encourage and inspire more people to discover and explore their own psychic and spiritual side – in whatever way interests them as an individual.

What are modern spiritual philosophies about?

Modern spirituality is very real and inclusive.  Recent discoveries in quantum physics are beginning to explain many “spiritual” concepts, and modern spiritual teachers understand that psychic and spiritual phenomena is a natural part of being human.  It’s really exciting to see science and spirituality (once again) working hand in hand to explore this amazing and incomprehensible universe!

What are a few of the common myths about spirituality?

Firstly – “there is no scientific evidence for psychic ability”.  There is now overwhelming, indisputable, clinically sound evidence that psychic ability exists.  In fact, there is more evidence for psychic ability than for many other accepted scientific concepts!

Secondly – that you have to have the “gift” to be psychic.  Studies are emphatically displaying that psychic ability is found in almost every human being.  Like any natural ability, (eg. singing or sprinting) some are gifted at it while others have to work hard to reach even basic competency, but we can all train the ability we have, starting at any age.

Thirdly – spiritual concepts cannot exist because they break all laws of nature.  For the last 300 years, science has been based on the laws of Isaac Newton, however these laws are now beginning to fall apart in the face of new discoveries.  Put simply – the universe does not work the way we have assumed for the last 300 years!  Many new scientific concepts support (and amplify) spiritual concepts such as psychic ability, energy healing and the power of intentional thought.  Scientists now realise that, despite our technological and scientific advancements, we can actually only explain about 4.6% of how the universe works.  Therefore, I encourage everyone to stay open-minded and curious.

Can you tell us about your non-for-profit association Ciema Inc?

I am passionate about inspiring as many people as possible to learn about and discover their spiritual power – a big part of my vision is to make spirituality normal, modern and mainstream.  Unfortunately, the spiritual industry can still appear a bit “flakey” in our pragmatic society and I know that this turns many people off (even if they are curious).  Ciema was created to help provide the public with a list of credible, intelligent and truly professional spiritual practitioners; practitioners that are honest, expert and meet the expectations of modern society.  Ciema practitioners are dedicated to providing the highest levels of service to their clients and have agreed to abide by a very strict Code of Ethics.  Historically, every industry has reached a point of regulation and professionalism (medical, natural therapies etc) and I feel that now is the perfect time for the spiritual industry to step up and be counted.

What motivates you?

My life lesson number! Haha!  My numerologist friend taught me that I am a Life Lesson 1, so all the motivation I need comes from within me.  I am very driven, very passionate and I seize every day and every opportunity.  I have promised myself that in my final few moments in this lifetime I will not be regretting a thing, so if something feels right I give 120%.

Who inspires you?

I am inspired by everyday people, doing small acts of compassion and kindness.  I love seeing people helping each other in the grocery store or being courteous to each other in traffic.  We all want to live in a kinder, happier world and I am inspired by those who do the little things on a daily basis to spread the good stuff.

What makes you really happy?

I’m really happy most days, and only because I have found a way to be true to myself.  I follow my heart (my intuition) every day and try to live each moment with pure integrity of WHO I AM.  Being kind makes me happy.  Being of service makes me happy.  Singing really loudly makes me happy.  Being on stage or in front of the camera makes me really happy!  These are things that bring me great joy, because they are a part of what I’m here to do.

Who is your favourite author and what is your must read suggestion?

I don’t really have a favourite author.  I enjoy the spiritual insights of Deepak Chopra but my favourite novel of all time has to be Pillars of the Earth by Ken Follett.  It’s an incredible read.

About Kim Forrester 

Kim Forrester is a Spiritual Commentator with over 12 years’ experience as a professional Psychic Medium.  She combines her passion for media and public speaking with her desire to modernise “New Age” spirituality; creating no-nonsense videos, blogs and conversations about psychic and spiritual phenomena.  She is the founder and president of Ciema Inc, a not-for-profit association that promotes integrity and professionalism in the spiritual industry.  Her goal is to help people understand that modern spirituality does not come dressed in tie-dye kaftans and moccasins – it wears corporate suits, kick-ass heels and has a Ph.D. in Quantum Physics. www.spiritualcommentator.com

Chatting to Prudence Reid the author of The Dress Shop Novel 

What inspired you to write the story The Dress Shop?

I was always a person, like many of us, who felt they had a book in them so to speak. I had kept a diary of my thoughts as well as ideas for writing a novel all through my twenties but never actually pursued it properly. In my early thirties, as in the novel, my life was turned upside down and I had a very brief moment when I saw, laid out before me a whole theme for a novel. And so my debut novel began and I continued The Dress Shop on and off for the next six years. So I guess my inspiration came from a genuine passion for writing and wanting to try my hand at it coupled with an inspirational moment in time that sort of stuck in my brain….

What are some of the challenges and hurdles a newly single mother is faced with? 

A newly single mother is faced with so many challenges and hurdles I could write a book about it….

Finance

So many women are in charge of their own finances for the first time when they are newly single. They may have a decent ex partner who is fair and reasonable but from my own research this is a rarity and a lot of men are very controlling with the finances and punish or manipulate the situation to suit their own needs.  Women often find they are stuck in the middle. They do not have the finances to fight it so they have to put up with it. The family court system is very slow and in the meantime they have to feed and look after their children. Creating a stable and regular income independent of their partner who may have been the breadwinner is a huge challenge and not always possible. This can be hugely stressful for a newly single mother.

Emotional 

Some women have finally worked out who they are which may be part of the reason the marriage or partnership has come to an end and so they may be entering a coming of age themselves as they try and stay strong for their children who will also be experiencing mixed emotions to a separation.

Children have different needs at different ages but they are always demanding and require constant parenting. A newly single mother may not have the support of the father if their partnership has come to an end but her role as a mother never stops or considers what is happening in the world around her. She has to go on being emotionally available, caring, dependent for her children if she can and this is a huge challenge.

Social

Often a community or group of peers may side with a particular side and socially a woman may be left out in the cold. Her strong social network is diluted over night and men tend to support each other and may even instruct their wives to take sides too. This is only temporary in my opinion, eventually things will settle down and if a newly single mother shared a genuine friendship within that particular network it will be there in the end.

Change in family structure

Suddenly the whole family structure has changed over night. What do I call my mother-in-law? Will we still be a family unit? It is such an insecure time all round. I don’t think any divorce or separation is easy but in time hopefully if both parties are fair, reasonable and truly put the child’s needs first things will find a new rhythm and make a fit that is ok and maybe better than before.

Grief

No matter how much one person wants out of a partnership, one can never really rationalise the sadness of the end of the family unit. We are all brought up with the fairy tale and we all sort of hope for it so when we don’t achieve it there is a grieving process involved.

Exhaustion

General exhaustion as women struggle to meet everybody’s needs. This pattern exists for most mothers single or not. Woman in general of course are usually more in touch with their emotions and have traditionally played the role of nurturer in the family unit. This role is unforgiving really in that it is superfluous in nature with not real thanks but is probably more important than money in the end.

Insecurity

Will I meet somebody else? Am I still attractive? Will the next person accept my children? Fear of the unknown is ever present and there are moments where you need all your courage to keep moving forward.

Doubt

Have I done the right thing? Day to day practicalities like getting all the stuff to and from two households is tricky and can create lots of angst for all parties.

Communication

More than likely poor communication would have been a major contributor to the breakdown of the partnership and so trying to communicate with your ex can sometimes be impossible when there is animosity and guilt involved after a marriage.

Many mothers can relate to the term “juggling” how does the character Veronica Ryan juggle her newfound life as “ a single mother” and juggling everything else on her plate at the same time?

Juggling or ‘job jumping’ as Veronica Ryan calls it.

Opinion would vary greatly as to how well Veronica Ryan juggles her life as a single mother. She flies by the seat of her pants and uses all tools available including text and social media to get from a to b.

Her skills get there in the end but would have to be viewed more as entertaining rather than offering a wonderful system for single mothers to follow. What Veronica does demonstrate though is that through all the stress there are two beautiful children, her sons that make it all worthwhile.

She also provides hope for the family unit that chooses to go down the divorce path showing that with a little understanding and compassion from both parties co-parenting can be ok and the children may even be happier.

What motivates you?

A challenge always motivates me. I like to be busy so I always need a project of some sort and I do like to feel like I am achieving something. However, in saying this, writing a novel is an extraordinary achievement and only now can I realise that I actually did it. In hindsight, if I did not have a genuine passion for the written word I don’t think I would have completed the novel.

I worked on it for 6 years and normally I a am very fickle in life. I have had several jobs from account exec in advertising, trainee accountant, primary school teacher and mother. If I am honest with myself I have a tendency to get bored easily and I like to move on to the next thing. So it amazes me that I stuck at my novel and I can only put it down to a deep seated intrinsically motivated side of me that was just there.

Do you have any advice for the Mothers Get Inspired readers who might be facing this story scenario?

My advice to anyone going through a life change in the form of a divorce is finding out who you are really. Be honest with yourself, get a good psychologist on board and do some serious work on what makes you happy and what you want out of life.

Divorce can also be a second chance so try and find the silver lining and look for the positives, they will be there somewhere. Also, more than anything learn to be ok on your own. It is the most empowering place you can be emotionally and puts you in the right place if you want to meet someone and embark on a new relationship.

The Dress Shop 

The Dress Shop is a story about Veronica Ryan, dressologist extraordinaire and empathetic companion to cash registers everywhere. Recently divorced from her handsome, funny, socially acceptable husband she embarks on her own journey to find lasting love and real meaning to life; Ronnie’s is a tale of joyous self-discovery.

Navigating unchartered single-parent waters with two young sons at her heels, disillusioned with the suburb she grew up in, (Mossington Junction has become a land of superficial scenes swarming with two bob snobs) Ronnie takes a job in a local dress shop and finds her new world opening up in ways she never guessed possible.

The shop is a hub of interesting characters; Athena Andronicus, the smartest girl from Ronnie’s old school is uncovering her husband’s secret double life; the style-blighted Professor of Mathematics also from Wenchwood Ladies College who still burns a flame for one of his students and of course, Jack the Plumber who catches Ronnie’s newly liberated and wandering eye.

Multi-tasking like a professional, juggling the needs of her family, ex-husband and friends via text message day and night, dating Old Dudes against her better judgement, dealing with her duchess of a mother and taking care of a menagerie of animals, Ronnie’s road to wholeness is hilarious, touching and real.

A feel good novel written in the flavour of Eat, Pray, Love meets Bridget Jones’s Diary not “Smug Married”.

For information please visit http://thedressshopnovel.com

Who inspires you?

I personally draw inspiration from so many elements around me.

A person who have overcome so many obstacles in their lives and who has that fighting spirit inspires me so much. I cannot hand pick just one person. It seems unfair as so many people I interview and who I meet on my blog Inspires me to pursue my dreams.

I’m a creative soul, so being in nature inspires me to set my mind, body and soul free and just be inspired by my surroundings. When I feel blocked or unhappy I tend to take walks in very green areas to just gain some inspiration from Mother nature.

Who was your role model growing up?

My mom. Without a doubt.

To me my mother is a super women. She had three kids in 5 years. Basically left her dream job to care for her 3 daughters. My mother showed me the real essence of being a strong women. She is a fantastic wife, great cook and a loving mom. She is always so encouraging and such a beautiful women inside and out.

Until this day, I try my best to make her proud. I love all that my mom has done for me and if I ever become half the mother she is to myself and my sisters, I’d be happy.

What motivates you?

Failure

It may sound silly at first. But I am not perfect. I drop the ball at times and I’m not so proud of those moments. But by making mistakes I go into “Re-do mode” Once I set my mind to trying harder and working to get the results I want, there is no turning back.

When I started writing motivational content. Many people thought that my blog would never be a success, I didn’t want to be a fashion blogger, even after a long career in modelling, Inspiring people has been my passion.

My blog won 1^st runner up in the South African Blog after only 1 year, with that I just smile at the failures in my past and I positivity look forward to the accomplishments.

Failure motivates me to do my best. With that mindset, we are bound to pursue success.

Can you tell us about the inspirational work you are doing in South Africa?

I am a motivational Speaker and writer by profession. So my work only includes supporting people in a positive way.

I am the Creative Director behind My blog “Just Pursue It” is an award winning motivational blog that empowers and motivates my readers from all around the world on a daily basis. Most of my content are lessons that I have learnt in the past. The beauty of writing is that I can use my experiences to uplift others and by doing that I feel fulfilled by blogging and writing for magazines such as Oprah magazine, Inspire magazine and many online publications.

I am also the founder of the Inspirational Women’s Initiative where I interview women from around the world to share their success stories and give my readers a word of encouragement. It’s been a pleasure to interview so many amazing women, with every interview I learn so much and I have a deeper appreciation for women as we work so hard to keep a balance in our lives.

I am the co- Founder of a Foundation called Inspirational Women International who’s website (iwomeni.org) is launching in a few weeks in South Africa. With this foundation we aim to spread the word of positivity in schools, women’s organisations and academies all over the world with workshops and motivational talks. I have been invited to speak at events and even correctional facilities to help people pursue a positive life and move forward to the life of their dreams. My dream is to take my talks to the International Stage.

With that said, I am always looking for organisations to partner with, I believe that we can only make a difference when we work together as women to achieve a goal. So I  openly invite any women who read this to email me and I’ll see where I can assist with my talks and writing services.

Your website is inspirational and motivating what inspired you to begin this journey?

Thank you for that compliment.

The story is actually my tragedy to triumph story. I lost a friend to brain cancer in 2011. Before she passed away I spent many days just enjoying her friendship. She was remarkably down to earth and I loved how she would not allow cancer to paralyze her from doing good in the world. She was the strongest person I knew – even the cancer could not get her down!

Before she lost her battle with cancer she told me that I needed to pursue my dreams as she knew I wanted to touch the lives of people. The Just Pursue It Blog  is an ode to her life. It’s dedicated to her as it’s reflective of the message she gave me when she was alive.

Cancer affects so many of us in this world. My friend did not die in vain, her legacy will live on as long as I am alive. I feel that she is smiling down as I pursue to put a smile on every person’s face who I tell this story too.

As a motivational speaker what are a few key challenges your audience has discussed with you and how do you address those issues?

The main challenge is speaking in front of so many people. I always get nervous but after the first 5 minutes, I just do what I was paid to do. I inspire with my words.

In this day and age  reminding women how amazingly powerful they are if they believe in themselves is a challenge as we get so easily desponded.

I get booked for my talk called “Inspired to Rise above it” In this talk I spend time talking about rising above our mistakes and circumstances and how we as women should pursue the life of our dreams and take each challenge as a mechanism to make us stronger for our successful journey.

As women, we lose that self confidence after having kids, after losing our jobs or even after a divorce. So my job is to remind you of that self confidence and that fighting spirit that lives in your heart.

How do you juggle motherhood and running a successful media design company?

Somehow I make it work. It’s still challenge even with a routine.

I’ll be honest. In the beginning I thought I was supposed to do it all by myself. That lead to me being overtired and I had to book myself into a hospital because I was working myself to a standstill. It was a great shock to see that I had not realised how hard I was on myself. But things have changed

Even though I wanted to be a full time mom. But I knew with my job as a Speaker, I couldn’t take my daughter with me to corporate events.

My daughter goes to a day care for a few hours in the day. She is the happiest person since she loves her friends and her teacher. At first I cried every day I dropped her in the beginning, but now I feel so much better as she blows me kisses when I drop her at daycare. She’s becoming a little miss Independent and she is only 18 months old!

To run a business and foundation. A schedule is very important. All my work contributes to the greater good of people. So I need to manage my time spent with people and myself.

Having a daily schedule is imperative for the working mom of today. It gets better with time, managing your time is crucial as a women needs to also know when to switch off. The minute my husband and daughter comes home, I try not to touch my laptop. Family time is so important. It’s what feeds the soul and it’s what makes me happy when I see my husband and daughter enjoying a meal I just made or when we go for walks after working hours.

What is your favourite inspirational quote?

This quote was given to me in my 21^st birthday speech by my father, It has stuck since then.

A successful man is one who can lay a firm foundation with the bricks others have thrown at him”.  David Brinkley

What is your favourite restaurant is Cape Town?

I have so many! Cape Town is known for their eclectic mix of cultures and the same goes for their food.

I love the place called Bo-Kaap Kombuis,. It is where I had my wedding reception and it has the views of the Bo-Kaap Malay quarters as well as a backdrop of the majestic Table Mountain. Its where I go for beautiful food with a beautiful scenery.

A tip. Get a table on the balcony, Its the perfect romantic setting! I love their Butter Chicken Curry made with Cashew nuts and served with Roti.

What is your favourite shopping destination in Cape Town?

It has to be Canal Walk Shopping centre.

If you were to summarize Cape Town in two sentences what would it be?

The place where the ocean meets the souls of beautiful people. My place of birth and a city I call home.

Do you have any advice for the Mothers Get Inspired readers?

Just Pursue to be the best possible you.

It is never to late to be who you were destined to be. Yes life gets hard, we are born to handle the circumstances that come our way. Start believing in yourselves ladies. You are mothers, wives, daughters, granddaughters and not forgetting you are women, uniquely and beautifully made by our creator

Value yourselves more from today and you will see how the life you wanted will unfold.

About Sue Levy

Like many women in business, new media expert and inspirational speaker and blogger, Sue Faith Levy has seen too many young women undervalue their abilities and what they have to offer the world.

Is it low self-esteem and negative thinking? Lack of good role models and education? Culture? Is it all about the situation they were raised in? Can only certain women rise to the top? Are they just a lucky few?

Or, is there a different story?

With a decade of mentoring young women in South Africa, volunteering, speaking at schools, and most importantly, real-life, experience inspiring university students to be their best, her view on inspiration and success is very different.

Sue appreciates, and shares with her female audiences, that success is about the entire package they present and not about where they come from, their age, or position in society. Success is available to all women. It’s what women should believe every single day.

Sue is often referred to as “inspirational” for her ability to instantly connect and inspire young people. She is known for bringing out the best in people and making them feel special.

Sue’s passion for inspiring women to be the best they can be, sprinkled with her own real-life stories and her contagious laughter instantly connect her to her audiences at an intimate, fresh and individual level.

Sue is the founder of a successful media design agency and an award-winning blogger whose inspirational articles have been published throughout the world.

She also writes a weekly column for 8 Women Dream, a top blog about dream achievement. She continues to speak with the best and brightest in the international motivational speaking field and interviews successful women for her blog, Just Pursue It.

As the founder of a nonprofit  for young women in 2012,  Sue is planning on taking her nonprofit to the world in 2013 and there will be more about this exciting project as the year unfolds.

For more information please visit:

Just Pursue It

How would you describe your style?

My style is generally quite minimalist and clean with a few statement pieces from my favourite designers mixed in to give that ‘wow’ factor. I love to accessorise and use bags, shoes, jewellery, scarves, hats and eyewear (of course) to express my individual style.

Where did your passion for fashionable eyewear begin?

I’ve always been passionate about fashion and accessories and consider eyewear to be the ultimate fashion accessory. It’s often the first thing people notice about you so it’s so surprising that most people have only one pair of glasses that they wear with everything. I love the idea of being able to change the glasses that you’re wearing and completely change your look and how people see you.

The inspiration for Bespecd began in a sidewalk café in the streets of Shanghai, where I was working as a professional photographer at the time. My friend had recently bought a pair of glasses from a boutique in Shanghai and we remarked on how they were just as high quality, but only a fraction of the price, as her very expensive designer glasses from Australia. I returned to Australia shortly after that conversation knowing that I wanted to start something different. That idea, combined and influenced by my love of fashion, design and accessories, became my inspiration to create Bespecd.

What’s your favourite eyewear trend/s right now?

Statement frames continue to be on-trend. I love transparent and semi-transparent chunky acetate frames – from clear crystal to ultra-brights. Bold animal prints are also huge at the moment, especially leopard. Wood, natural textures and hand-crafted effects, like our Dresden frames, are another must-have style, and look set to become a staple.

What are your top three eyewear “must have” frames?

1. Chunky square or wayfarer style frames.  These versatile frames can be worn by anyone, regardless of their personal style, and lend just the right amount of hipster edge.
2. Round frames. They are so rock n’ roll. Keep these in your wardrobe for when you want to make an impact.
3. Cat-eye frames. These vintage classics are perfect for adding some retro-glamour. Surprisingly easy to wear, they look good on every face shape.

What inspires you?

When I’m designing each season’s collection, I start by looking at international fashion trends, street-style fashion photography and fashion blogs, people on the street, vintage eyewear collections, media & advertising and raw materials samples.

How do you balance running your own business and motherhood?

Balancing motherhood and Bespecd is always a challenge and I would describe my life as hectic. I’m lucky to have a very supportive family who help me a lot. However, as a family we’ve still had to make a lot of sacrifices such as putting our children into day-care and after-school care and I wish that I was able to spend more time with them. We try to follow a strict daily routine (something I previously had never been fond of) and schedule our weekend family activities in advance.

Most importantly, I try to delegate work wherever possible. I like to do things myself and initially I tried to literally do everything myself. Now, if any job can be done better by someone else, it gets delegated.

Do you have any advice for the Mothers Get Inspired readers who are currently searching for a great pair of fashionable spectacles?

Be brave with your eyewear. A great pair of frames can say so much about who you are and is an opportunity to express yourself both personally and professionally. Once upon a time you may have gotten away with one basic utilitarian frame, but eyewear now comes in so many styles, colours and materials why limit yourself to just one pair? Create an eyewear wardrobe so that you can change your eyewear to suit any outfit or the occasion. You can be sensible and professional one day and creative and adventurous the next.

About Tracey Cruickshank

Tracey Cruickshank is Creative Director and Co-founder of Bespecd – a new Australian online eyewear retailer. Prior to founding Bespecd, Tracey was a professional portrait photographer whose career spanned many cities over several countries. Tracey’s interest in fashion and accessories developed at an early age and she refined her taste and vision during her years as a photographer and world traveller.

She is a graduate of The University of Technology Sydney and holds a Bachelor of Arts in Communication. She is also a Certified Optician with The American Board of Opticianry. Originally from a small coastal town in northern NSW she has lived in Sydney, Osaka and Shanghai among other places. She currently lives in Brisbane, QLD with her husband and their three young children aged 7, 6 and 10 months. Founder and Director of Bespecd WWW.BESPECD.COM.AU

How do you juggle being a single mother and running your own business?

For me, it’s about having a crystal clear focus, it’s about not feeling guilty, and it’s about quality time and sticking to what you love. It’s about taking time out for yourself, and positive self-talk. Many things can help. I have a meal planner and I diarise on a year planner and a month planner. I do meetings from home on Skype when I can. The kids help with making lunches, doing dishes, washing, cooking and all sorts of things. I find that the kids are happiest when I am happiest so I don’t feel guilty when I have meetings, or evening events. I make time for them in other ways. I sing a lot at bedtime and I am always there for concerts, awards and parent and teacher stuff. And when it comes to work, I delegate and outsource whatever I can. I focus on building relationships because that is my strength.

Who inspires you?

Entrepreneurs like Steve Jobs and Richard Branson. But also great leaders like Nelson Mandela. Creative thinking, acts of compassion and stories of overcoming adversity inspires me. I definitely get out the box of tissues on movie night and no there is never too many times you can watch Forrest Gump.

What motivates you?

Money of course, totally, money talks, especially if you have children. But underneath all that I live for a challenge and I thrive on innovation and creativity. My work involves a lot of analysis and creative design and I could happily sit for months in the world of my imagination. Researching, analysing and planning. Finding a new and different perspective. But the money is what motivates me to implement the ideas and get a wriggle on.

What is your favourite aspect of being and entrepreneur? 

I like planning. I like being in control of the planning side of work. I like the freedom and I feel like the sky is the limit as an entrepreneur.

Do you have any advice for mothers who are in the process of starting their own business?

Absolutely DO the finances properly from Day 1. Get a good Accountant and Bookkeeper and investigate software like Xero and Freshbooks before you make any transactions. DON’T be afraid to sell! You have to back yourself so get in there and go for it, it’s just a numbers game, every time you discover someone who is not interested, you are much closer to someone who is.

Surround yourself with mentors and people who are supportive of you, and accept help and above all else don’t FEEL guilty about taking time out from your children. They don’t need to be with you 24/7. Your children will respect you and love you and feel proud of you for investing time in yourself and your own business. So go for it! Take the leap!

Can you tell us about your children’s business called Red Table?

Lili (10) and Ocean (9) had some leftover cookie dough from a school fundraiser. So they baked some cookies and set up a stall outside our house. They didn’t sell much so they moved to the end of the street and then across the road to the bus stop and then eventually around the corner to the markets on a Saturday morning. It’s really just been a fun way for them to make some money and learn some great life skills. They bake cookies and cupcakes and sell them near the markets at Kelvin Grove on a Saturday morning. Their Facebook page is www.facebook.com/redtablekids.

How did you get involved in The League Of Extraordinary initiative and can you us what this networking group is all about?

The League of Extraordinary Women is Australia’s largest movement of young female entrepreneurs. It is an opportunity for young women to get together and support each other in building a business or a career. We have very inspiring speakers, fantastic opportunities for sponsorship and endorsement and we actively promote each other’s businesses throughout the network. I became a member because I wanted to reach out to other women in business and I have made several friends that I will have for life through the network.

What were a few of the challenges you were faced with in starting and running your business and how did you overcome them?

Confidence, definitely, that is the biggest one for me and also capital. I think you just have to be 100% committed. You have to really love being in business as the first 3 years are really tough and then all the years after that are fraught with challenges but I think the latest statistics are saying that the biggest reason for small business failure in this country is that business owners give up. They lack the skills to systemise and manage, they hit a few hurdles or make some mistakes and then they give up.

If you are 100% committed, you will find the confidence, you will find the money, you will find the sales, you will get to market whatever way that you can and you will learn from your mistakes and not give up. So I guess there are a myriad of challenges that you face in business and that never stops, but it’s your own commitment that gets you through in the end.

Do you have any tips and advice for the Mothers Get Inspired readers?

At the moment in my life I am focused on my core values and my soul purpose in life and I have found that all the work I have done in this area has really helped me to be more focused and productive in every aspect of my life. If you don’t really know who you are, or you have something you want to change. Now is the time to get on top of that stuff. My advice is that 2013 is a great year for getting aligned with your authentic person and enjoying being who you are and taking massive action to do “you” to the best of your ability! And of course keep reading great resources like this one!

About Danielle Neale 

Danielle Neale, 31 year old single mother of three and Managing Director of Konia Software is fast becoming the go-to woman in Brisbane when you want to make the right connections and move your career and business forward.

Passionate about inspiring others to run successful businesses, Danielle coins herself as “unemployable” having worked for herself for the last 13 years. “I am constantly researching, constantly innovating, analysing, making connections and building business and I have just never found a job description that more aptly fits my skill set than Entrepreneur. I need to know that I can take the credit, I need to know that I make the final decision.”

Danielle offers Business Coaching, Mentoring and advice to other women juggling family and career as well as practical real world business advice regarding business development, marketing, sales, strategic planning, systemisation and management.

Find out more about Konia Software at www.koniasoftware.com.au or contact Danielle Neale via email at info@koniasoftware.com.au

Do you have any makeup tips and advice for busy mothers on the go?

Routine, routine, routine!!! I cannot stress enough the need for busy mothers to find a beauty routine that works for them and stick to it. It should never take you longer than 5 to 10 minutes to do your makeup in the morning. Find products and application techniques that make sense for your schedule, skin type, beauty needs, etc. and compile these into a routine that gets you out the door in the morning. You can always add to it if you have something special going on a particular day, or enhance your look for evening.

I will also suggest investing in a basic but good set of makeup brushes. Good brushes make quite a difference in how natural your makeup looks and how easy the application can be.

What are a few of your favourite makeup staples and why?

1. Rosebud Perfume Co. Mocha Rose lip balm – I live for this stuff! I got my first tube from a gift bag at an event and I’ve been hooked ever since. This balm smells so yummy that my 4-year-old daughter says it smells like ice cream (it’s her favorite too). It makes my lips feel soft and cushiony, it’s long lasting, it’s great for harsh weather and it preps my lips and my client’s lips for lip color application perfectly.
2. MAC Cosmetics Lipstick in Russian Red – This lip color is the perfect velvety matte red. The application is so easy, there’s no need for a lip pencil. This red brightens my entire day and I don’t need to wear a full face of makeup when I wear it because it looks great with just bronzer and mascara. My favorite thing to say is “Keep Calm and Rock a Red Lip” and Russian Red is why.
3. BECCA Ultimate Colour Gloss – As you can see I’m all about the lips…they are after all what people watch the most when you are speaking to them. And let’s be honest, we spend a great deal of time trying to make them appear fuller and more luscious. This gloss is one more way to achieve this without spending a ton of money on product or enhancements. It applies like a silky cushion which makes your lips feel fuller, my lips are so glossy and feel so sexy after I apply this gloss it’s like having sunshine on my lips. The best part is that the consistency of the gloss is not sticky or thick even though you get this beautiful pop of color. I’m a fan!
4. L’Oreal Voluminous Mascara in Carbon Black – Moving onto the eyes, I believe that good mascara is EVERYTHING when it comes to enhancing the eyes, and this one is fantastic! It applies with a rich, velvety, black finish, which gives you the appearance of natural looking false lashes. And my lashes always feel soft to the touch after the mascara dries which is HUGE for me. Who wants brittle stiff lashes anyway.
5. MAC Mineralize Skinfinish Natural Powder – The classification of powder just does not do this product justice. I use a big fluffy brush to apply the powder, and it blends out my imperfections while giving a soft natural appearance to my skin. This powder is great for setting concealers, tinted moisturizers, foundations and bb creams without looking cakey or powdery. I absolutely use it every day and I use it on my clients as well.

Time is of the essence for busy mothers, which products would you recommend for an energized and “awake” looking complexion in a flash?

Once busy mothers figure out a beauty routine that works for them, there are some products that they can invest in to give them a beautiful energized appearance in 10 minutes or less.

• A good creamy concealer in a warm tone that is a shade lighter than their natural skin tone. Concealer is so important; as we become older and get less and less sleep taking care of the kids and our home life. It can be applied quickly with your fingers and should be applied under the eye, in the eye socket and blended into the lid as well. Blending is also very important. This application brightens the entire face in a flash, and can take years off your face in an instant.
• A soft shimmer eye shadow with a warm undertone to it. I love MAC’s Naked Lunch. It should be applied from the lid up to the brow bone with a soft fluffy eye shadow brush, and also in the corners of the eye for a wide-eyed awake look.
• A Tinted moisturizer, bb cream or a powder like the one I mentioned above can be applied quickly with your fingers or a big fluffy brush to even out any imperfections of the skin.
• A cream blush in a warm pink color applied with a brush or fingers will provide the skin a warm sunny glow.
• A natural lip gloss with a hint of color.
• And finally a coat or two of great mascara and you are out the door.

I promise that once these steps are perfected they will become second nature and you will look beautiful and refreshed every single day. Once again these steps can be adapted or added to once you busy moms find more things that work for you. Enjoy and be beautiful!

About Monica Jones 

Monica Jones is the owner of Adorn Beauty & Style, a boutique firm which offers services that range from bridal and special event makeup to wedding stationary and event décor. In addition to running Adorn, Monica also manages George Lowell, a high end furnishings and home accessories boutique in Chicago’s Andersonville neighborhood.

Essentially juggling two jobs, Monica still finds time to be a doting and devoted mother to her beautiful 4 yr old daughter, Alia Hampton. Please feel free to visit Monica at http://pinterest.com/monirj007/ to view some of her work and to see all the different things that fuel her inspiration and creativity daily.

Clinical Psychologist, Dr Lisa Patterson-Kane’s main focus is on her extensive work throughout rural regions of Australia. It is her dedication to her work and innovative thinking that has paved her career.

Having previously worked in government mental health, Dr Patterson-Kane now runs her own private practice in her native Walcha, NSW, teaches at the University of New England and provides remote clinics to rural areas in need of care.

Dr Patterson-Kane noticed a common theme with many of her patients, a desire to simply become happier’, it was with this goal in mind that she decided to develop her app, Get Happy. The app provides simple, evidence based strategies that users can put in place to improve their personal happiness and wellbeing. Based on the principles of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, the underlying idea being you must accept what is out of your control and commit to actions that will improve and enrich your life.

Not only will the app give users a means to improve their wellbeing, it is also a valuable tool for those living in rural and remote communities who may not have regular access to psychological help, a cause close to Dr Patterson-Kane’s heart. In an increasingly complex and busy world where stress and discontentment are dominant, Dr Patterson-Kane’s innovative idea marries technology and psychology and is using some of the problems in today’s society (increased technology, desire for the quick fix) to provide the solutions.

The Get Happy app is available for download from the App Store for 0.99c

SARAH HAMILTON MANAGING DIRECTOR, BELLABOX 

What inspired you to start-up your own business?

My twin sister Emily and I had been anticipating starting a business together for quite some time and it was during 2011 that we launched bellabox. Emily has previous experience in running a few of her own businesses while I most recently worked as the General Manager of Spin Media, a media company in New York. It was while I was living in New York that Emily pitched the idea that we should start a beauty sampling service and e-commerce store in both Australia and Singapore (where Emily now lives). The concept of bellabox is based on the business idea launched by Birchbox in the US.

Being an ‘impatient New Yorker’ for four years means that I expect e-commerce options to be super efficient and also provide access to a large number of products. bellabox is a targeted marketing service where our members are sent a range of relevant beauty samples to trial in their own time, then our e-commerce store complements the experience, making the full size item available for purchase should we introduce them to a product they’ve loved. Emily has a strong background in digital marketing so this business model suited us perfectly and we were excited to adapt this US based concept to the Australian and Singaporean markets.

Coming from an entrepreneurial family, we have always been encouraged to take risks in our careers and not expect a guaranteed salary with benefits. While starting up your own business can offer autonomy and flexibility, we were inspired to create bellabox as we believed (rightly or wrongly!) that we were the best people to bring this concept to our markets. We took that assertion further and began our business by backing ourselves financially before looking for outside investors. We are motivated and stubborn individuals so we’re not going to give up – success is the only outcome we think about and plan for.

What is your favourite aspect of being an entrepreneur?

The interesting conversations I’ve had with the people I’ve met during my journey! Everyone is quite intrigued by someone who has given up the relative safety of paid employment, plus I’ve been offered some great unique ideas on how to grow my business.

What was the most difficult part of getting started?

I don’t think we found it hard to start – we naïvely thought that we would never fail! New challenges and exciting new ideas on how to grow the business came with each new day so that wasn’t difficult to deal with. However, in the beginning the relentless workload was tough – both Emily and I had to take on the roles of 10 different staff members at once while also trying to stay focused on the strategy and being clear on our priorities.

 What motivates you?

Life, generally! I’m a big fan of getting up early in the morning and tackling a new day with renewed enthusiasm, despite the little sleep that I’m living on. Now that I have a family (my daughter Ruby is only 7 weeks old), I hope that I can be a role model to her and give her all of the opportunities that I had growing up. Plus I’m a little obsessed with shoes so that next pair is always good motivation to remain successful!!

Do you have any tips and advice for mothers wanting to start their own business?

• Carefully research where you believe there is a gap in the market for a product or service
• Play to your strengths and understand all of the aspects required of your potential business
• Try to make an honest assessment of the time you have to devote to your new business and have back up help at home, as it will always take up more time than you plan for!
• Overall, believe in yourself and what you have to give the business world.

For further information on bellabox, please visit www.bellabox.com.au

About Sarah Hamilton 

Up until recent years, life for Sarah Hamilton, MD of successful beauty subscription service bellabox, was more about commerce than cosmetics. After completing her degree in accounting, Sarah began a financial management career at London’s iconic Dazed and Confused magazine where she says she witnessed the revolution of the e-commerce and the rise of digital retail space.

It wasn’t until a few years later, as general manager at New York’s Spin magazine where she was charged with transitioning the publication into the digital world, that Sarah realised the potential for a luxury beauty e-commerce site that delivers personalised products straight to your door.

Seeking a seachange Sarah returned to Australia where, together with her twin sister Emily, she brought to life the dream of bellabox, a monthly subscription service that caters to both the needs of beauty aficionados, as well as those that are brand new to the beauty world, awaiting it’s discovery.

A year on, the bellabox service has a dedicated following and some of the country’s – and indeed the world’s – best beauty brands onboard to deliver cosmetics, skincare, fragrances and accessories to ‘beautyholics’ all across Australia. Sarah’s sister, Emily, heads up the Singapore operation and with the brand now firmly established in the Asia Pacific market, they are expanding with a men’s bellobox and the newest addition – bellababy – for parents and their newborns.

Having such a demanding professional career how do you juggle work and motherhood?

I use to think I had a busy life with my career in medicine and my start-up business.  Oh, was I wrong! Now with my baby, who is about 8-months old, I have re-calibrated my perception of “busy!” The transition has been made easier with the help of my family. My mother-in-law moved in with us and my sister comes over frequently to help with caring for the baby. My husband also rearranged his schedule so I can go back to practicing medicine, which I do part time now.  Without a network of support, it would be nearly impossible to have a career and business.

What is a typical AM and PM routine like in your home?

On the days I go to work, I usually wake up at 4:45am, pump (express breast milk), while I get ready and eat breakfast.  Then I pack my breast pump and my belongings for the day (computer, books etc). Then wake my mother-in-law or husband to assume care for our son.  I leave the house about 6am.

While at work, my day is busy administering anesthesia and teaching medical students.  During my “breaks” I pump in the NICU – neonatal intensive care unit. I am constantly on the go!

Usually I return from the hospital before 6pm, play with my baby, get dinner ready, eat and feed my baby, bath my baby, and get my baby ready for bed and feed my baby again and try to get him to sleep. Then I get myself ready for bed and send off some emails.  He usually goes to sleep at about 8pm and wakes for a midnight snack, when I feed him again.  Most of the time I am too busy to even think about being exhausted.

How has motherhood changed your life?

How hasn’t my life changed with motherhood?

My life is totally different than it use to be! I have less freedom with my schedule to make last minute or evening plans, without first arranging for childcare. We moved into a larger home to accommodate the amount of baby accessories (so much stuff for such a small person!).

I work at the hospital few days, part time now. And have several people helping with my business, requiring me to delegate and trust others to carry out tasks.  I have less personal time too, less time for myself, to exercise, sleep or see my friends.  The time has now been shifted to caring for my baby, who is constantly smiling or laughing, and making himself irresistible for me not to hold him!

Who inspires you?

This is a tough question for me to answer. It use to be Bethany Frankle, however she recently announced her divorce.  She too is a mother and successful businesswoman.  She has her problems (like we all do!), which she wasn’t afraid to share with America on her reality TV show, and this made her real!  Sadly, perhaps she had too much on her plate, which may have been the cause of her divorce.  She still is my inspiration, but now I try to spend more time with my husband and let him know I care about him.  I don’t want him to feel I have taken him for granted.

Can you tell us about your product BareEase and how it works?

The BareEase Prep Kit is the first and only garment-based numbing system for use as a pre-treatment step for bikini waxing. Unlike any other system, the patented numbing cream also comes with a latex panty that acts as an occlusive cover to isolate the cream for better and more effective absorption. This innovative combination of garment and medication is designed to make bikini waxing safe, easy and an “ouchless” experience.

While waxing is increasingly becoming popular among women, no one has found a way to address the pain that comes with bikini waxing until now.  That’s why I created BareEase. Now women can numb the skin before waxing to ensure the process is as painless as possible!  Please remind the sample testers that the key to numbing the skin is keeping the numbing agent against the skin for 45 minutes.

Each BareEase product contains a tube of the BareEase numbing cream formula, perfectly dosed for optimal safety and a latex panty, which facilitates absorption into the skin.

As an anesthesiologist, I was determined to develop a solution to eliminate the pain associated with waxing that was not only safe, but also effective and easy to use.

What was it like to be a contestant on the hit reality TV show Survivor: South Pacific?

It is harder than it looks on TV. I lasted 33 days before I was (happily!) eliminated! No toilet paper, toothbrush, shower, food or shelter for 33days!

After SURVIVOR I feel I am probably capable of doing almost anything!

What is your all time favourite wardrobe staple and why?

Yoga pants! Lycra is my best friend when it comes to postpartum body changes! My body has changed so much during these last twelve months! When I finished the game of survivor, I was 95 lbs.  When I was full term, I was 150lbs.  And having a good pair of yoga pants allowed me comfort and saved me money (because they changed with my body!).  Fortunately, I am now back to my Pre-survivor weight, but I still love and wear yoga pants.

What personal advice do you have for the Mothers Get Inspired readers?

Take a moment to appreciate everything you have and be proud of what and who you are!

Today’s society demands so much of women.  We are expected to be committed to our careers, and often that forces us to delay becoming mothers. Once we become mothers, the pressure to maintain our professional productivity still exists.

However now we have the added demands of parenting.  If you’re lucky enough to take time off of work to be with your baby, enjoy that time.  If you’re obligated to go back to work, savor the time you do have with your baby and knowing you’re one of the women who can “do it all.”

Many times, our personal identity is defined by our professional career, and if you’re able to do both then it’s certainly something to be proud of!

How would you describe your style?

My style is fairly classic. I love wearing classic lines and styles that work season in and season out. Then I can change the look with something on trend, such as a pattern or textured garment. This allows me to add some creativity to my looks. The key is having good core items in your wardrobe that you can change the style expression of depending on the situation and mood.

What inspired you to pursue a career in the styling and image profession?

My mum always said that I could look good in a potato sack! But seriously, when I started my family, I wanted something that would allow me to use my creative energy and also would allow me to help people. I started talking to schools on professional readiness for work experience, and saw that this could go further. I investigated the industry, spoke to several trainers and went from there.

What are your three most loved wardrobe staples and why?

My 3 most loved wardrobe staples are:

1. A great jacket that can go over pants, skirt, dress or jeans if needed.
2. Good quality t-shirts and camisoles in variety of colours, and also in your core colours for wardrobe coordination.
3. Good quality black pants.

These 3 items are the foundation for being able to create lots of different outfits.

A black pair of trousers will see you through any situation, be it work or play, t shirts and camisoles can be layered and also form part of the foundation for layering, and the jacket is your lifesaver to put over something very plain to dress it up and always feel great.

Do you have any wardrobe organizing tips for busy mothers?

Busy mums need lots of help with wardrobing. Keep all your favourites in sections, such as jeans, shirts, skirts, t-shirts, and colour code if you can. Often I take pictures for mums of outfits that work, so that when they are really pressed for time all they have to do is look at the picture. Or, you can write down on small stickers or cards what items go with what so that selection becomes easy. Have accessories at easy reach, even hanging on the back of the wardrobe door is good or on the coat hanger of the outfit you wear it with. Never put something back in the wardrobe if it needs washing or repairing, you will never wear it. Invest in really good hangers too.

A question from the readers:

I have been a stay at home mother for a few years. I am heading back into the workforce. Do you have any advice on what to wear for a job interview? I wouldn’t have a clue as to were to start.

I too have been in this situation. Remember that first impressions really do count, so what you wear, your grooming and behaviour has to be spot on and current. I would recommend, depending on the nature of the interview and the type of role you are applying for, to be conservative and wear a navy blue suit (pants or skirt) with a contrasting shirt or top, such as your best white. Do wear simple accessories; keep it to a watch, your wedding rings, necklace and earrings. Some Makeup is a must as is tidy and groomed hair in a current style that suits you. A simple business style shoe, such as a pump is professional and will go with either skirt or trousers. Have a neat folder and pen other than a biro to write with.

Do you have any styling advice for the Mothers Get Inspired readers?

Styling busy mums is a challenge. There are so many things to consider. Easy to wear, comfortable, layers are great for weather changes, items with pockets, accessories that won’t get caught on play equipment, easy to wash, and functional. I did a video this year that was well received .

The best advice I can give is to dress for you, so often as mums we just throw something on, or have a ‘that’ll do’ attitude. We forget that we have an identity, and can still look stylish.

Make sure that you have the basics in your wardrobe and then a couple of items that are in season to make you feel like you know whats going on out there, and then if you do catch up with other mums for a coffee you’re looking good. Know what colours make you feel great, and what styles really give your body shape the attention it deserves, everyone can look good when you know how.

About Julie Hyne

Julie Hyne is a successful business owner as well as an accomplished and experienced trainer, public speaker and presenter. She has major qualifications and experience that spans over 25 years working in industries where image and style are vitally important.

Julie began her career in 1983 after graduating with a Bachelor of Business, majoring in Catering and Hotel Management. With a passion for working at the front line, Julie held senior sales roles for establishments of ‘The Leading Hotels of the World’, a major airline, and American Express International Inc. Her work and success within these roles awarded her many letters of commendation from large corporate companies including Mayne Nickless, NEC, Orica, Caterpillar and Telecom.

Website: www.juliehyneimagestylist.com.au

Who inspires you?  

All women with ambition and a desire to speak up and make a change for improving women’s lives inspire me- Hilary Clinton for promoting the empowerment of women worldwide, Oprah for everything!, Liz Broderick Australian Sex Discrimination Commissioner for her work in the Male Champions of Change to enact real change in providing opportunities for women in corporate Australia, Sekai Holland for her dedication to public service and ability to forgive, Catherine Smith who was brutally tortured by her husband continues to speak out about domestic violence, – the list grows & changes!

How do you balance working from home and motherhood?

IBM has supported me in my transition to motherhood 8 years ago by providing paid back to back maternity leave with additional unpaid leave so that I was able to fulfill my personal goal of not returning to work until my eldest daughter was 4.

In previous roles at PriceWaterhouseCoopers Consulting/IBM, for 8 years, I travelled from Monday-Friday all over the world living in hotels during the week for sometimes a year at a time. I now work 100% of the time from home. Flexible work is ideal because my role involves working with teams across different time zones. For example I often need to take conference calls as early as 6:30 am and as late as midnight, and it’s not practical to be in the office at that time. Flexibility, therefore, is ideal as it allows me to mould my schedule around various time zones.

But flexible work means more to me than time zones and meetings. Like many parents, flexibility allows me to pick up and drop off my girls at school and work around after school events. And flexible hours help make valuable time for daily exercise too. After school drop off most mornings, I schedule in exercise. This is key in giving me energy to work extended days. Essentially, flexible work allows for a better work-life balance, increased wellness and happiness.

How has motherhood changed your life? 

Being a mother has enforced a balance in my life. Prior to being a mother, my life revolved around managing projects with impossible timelines and working all the hours to meet these deadlines as well as studying multiple degrees whilst full-time working, without much thought to my health and wellness. Having a long break for maternity leave enabled me to achieve balance in my life and revitalize some hobbies and re-engage with the community & even give some time to catching up with friends! In my delusional pregnancy, I was positive I could do a PhD with a newborn. My husband (my voice of reason) appealed to me to enjoy the moment of motherhood without pressures, which was great advice as both of my daughters had sleep apnea- until they were toddlers I was barely surviving on broken sleep- a PhD would have been incompatible.

What is your favourite make-up product? 

Since having my daughters, I have become a big fan of aromatherapy and keep my lavender and rose oils close by. My favourite products are L’Occitane and I always look forward to an OS work trip to get better L’Occitane deals!

What is your all-time favourite wardrobe staple?

I manage to collect new scarves/ wraps/pashminas on my frequent work trips- I have every color and one for every occasion! I never go anywhere without a scarf in my bag and flat shoes for backup (my feet thank me for it in the morning). After working from home full-time, I find whenever I go to the office, on a plane, to a function, the air conditioning really affects me and I despise being cold, so a scarf is my best accessory, as well as adding a touch of personality to the corporate drab dressing.

What advice do you have for the Mothers Get Inspired readers?

We all need to continue to speak up and out for women.  Many times I have experienced and witnessed sexual discrimination in the workplace in my varied career and remained silent.  Many times I have witnessed talented women drop out of the workforce due to inflexible conditions in the workplace.  Australia’s no. 1 in the OECD for providing educational opportunities for women, yet we’re ranked no. 24 for female participation in the workforce. We’re leading the world but going backwards.  Flexible work is a key strategy for increasing female participation in the workforce. There aren’t enough jobs for women with leadership pathways that co-exist with care responsibilities. Flexible working practices can help address this issue. I resigned from a previous role in IBM before my manager would take me seriously that I could not travel frequently as the primary carer of small children. In this instance, speaking out passionately about flexible working and the rights of women in the workforce enabled me to take on a different opportunity in my current role as the GMU Diversity Recruitment Leader where I am making a real difference in increasing female representation in IBM.

About Leith Mitchell 

I am the proud mother of two daughters, Sofia (8) and Celeste (6 1/2). I am a keen hockey player, yoga lover & mad about my two dogs. I am a passionate champion of flexible work practices, and active member of Women on Boards, Dressed for Success, Australian Institute of Management, Women In IT & Extraordinary League of Women. I am the Director of the Board for two growing property management companies in Central QLD, riding the mining boom.  As the Growth Markets Diversity Recruitment Leader at IBM, I am responsible for developing strategies to recruit a diverse workforce across Asia Pacific, Central Eastern Europe, China, India, Korea, Latin America, the Middle East and Africa. I work with HR Leadership to agree on strategies for achieving diversity goals & project manage the execution of these goals.

Business profile:  Jewels Australia Marketing
Founder: Jeni Langanke
Website:  www.jewelsaustraliamarketing.com.au

What advice do have for mothers starting up their own businesses?

Be brave and believe in yourself, do your research but don’t wait to have all the answers, they will come. I cannot recall the many number of times I was told no or that an idea I had would not work. When I started my first business in the late 80’s there were not so many women in management and it was tough winning over some of the men. I made sure I knew what I was talking about and was persistent. Most importantly I got the results I promised and over time getting results was all that was required and my career took off.

There have been some big highs and a few big lows and I share these with people who ask to help them understand that it’s all part of the process. Many years on I continue to learn and grow my business with more enthusiasm that I had in the beginning. I am more fearless now but careful also with what I recommend for my clients who expect more from you if you have been in the game a while.

Know what you are good at and hire the right people to perform the roles you are not good at. Network wisely, don’t be afraid to say no and share your experiences so others may find their journey less harrowing. Most important be optimistic and endeavour to enjoy every day.

How do you juggle running your own business and motherhood?

I remember my first born crying in a pram in the office while a client waited for me to complete a job for him. I had never felt so torn or stressed having come back to work 1 week after he was born. Looking back I know this was complete madness and so unnecessary. I didn’t repeat this process again. It was not popular to be female with a family in the early days of my career but I was determined to make it work. I have a supportive husband who runs his own business and is hands on in everything required. We have regular date nights and weekends away when able.

We have three children aged 20, 17 and 8 who have survived their mothers busy life without too much trauma ( well no jail time as yet ). They do many chores and they can all cook and clean. We have expected more from them than many seen to expect from their kids today which is a shame. They are confident, independent thinkers and I’m less worried about them the older they get. Sure, there has been plenty of guilt as some weeks fly by with the family saying good morning and good night to me while working. On the flip side, their dad and I have been to all of their school and sporting events and I hope they will look back in amazement ( let’s be honest ) at how we kept it all together.

About Jeni Langanke

I have been a self-employed marketing specialist for more than 20 years and founder of Jewels Australia Marketing. We provide marketing, advertising and creative services to the Jewellery industry both here and overseas. We help Jewellery Brands, Designers, Retailers and Wholesalers to start or reposition their business. We help them to connect with trade and consumers and to navigate an ever changing marketplace.

Industry: Marketing and Public Relations

Do you have any tips and advice for mothers returning back into the workforce?

The best advice I can give to mothers returning to work … and I confess I can only preach this in hindsight as I sure didn’t practice it at the time … is to cut yourself some slack and NOT feel guilty.

I cried in the car on the way to work and likely challenged road rules on the way to pick them up countless times but not returning to work was out of the question for me.  I loved my job and thrived on it, and my children were also thriving in a safe environment where they were learning many skills, social and educational, that have helped make them the amazing little people they are today.

Something drove you back to work … love of your job, financial considerations, the need to stay competitive or simply just to get out of the house, so remember what it was whenever the guilt creeps in.

For the first couple of years I did make the mistake of spending every minute I wasn’t at work with the kids which wasn’t necessarily healthy so I do recommend that you take time out for you.  Sometimes the last thing you feel like when the kids go to bed is going out but I guarantee the effort is worth it … coffee or a wine with girlfriends, especially if they’re in the same position as you, is soul-restoring.  And so is a pedicure … don’t judge me!

Finally, you’re probably a multi-tasker priding yourself on juggling a million things and of course no one does it better than you BUT there’s lots of people who love you and your kids that want to help so don’t be afraid to ask for it, you little control freak you!  You need a support network for when that conference call is scheduled at school pick-up time or when meetings run late … if your parents aren’t nearby be sure to make one of the daycare mums or a neighbour your best friend.  You get a new best friend and support when you need it.

My kids are now 9 and 11, and I’ve worked most of their lives and guess what – they still love me. I’m there for every important moment in their life from school fetes, sports days and concerts, grand finals, birthdays, new skateboard tricks and dance moves, and their best memories are with me … days at the beach and my parents country weekender, concerts and musicals, and just simple things like fish and chips in the park and bedtime giggles. And very importantly, they’re proud of me and my business.

This shoot with the kids was done by You Studio Photography West End, Brisbane.

About Samantha Brooks 

Samantha Brooks is the director of Bloom PR & Marketing and a communications specialist with 16 years industry experience in journalism, marketing and public relations across key sectors including leisure, entertainment, arts, retail and property.

Samantha has worked on brands such as Westfield Shopping Centres, Roadshow Films, Bundaberg Rum, Disney on Ice, Icon Film Distribution, Dendy Cinemas, the Nine Network, and Brisbane Powerhouse: Centre for the Live Arts.  Current clients of Bloom PR & Marketing are in film, fashion, arts, literature, photography, technology and property.

Kim Skubris mother to two gorgeous boys.
Industry: Media journalism.

Kim Skubris has been a television journalist for nearly 20 years and has spent most of that time working for Seven News, in the regional Queensland and national networks. Kim joined the Brisbane news team in 1998 and has since reported on domestic and international stories for the Seven Network, CNN, and affiliates in the UK and New Zealand.

Those stories include covering the Childers backpacker hostel fire, the Schapelle Corby trial in Bali, the “Bali 9″ drug traffickers’ arrests, the international manhunt for convicted killer John Gabriel, the arrest of suspected terrorist Mohamed Haneef, and reporting on the Kanimbla navy helicopter disaster in Indonesia which happened while Kim, and other Australian journalists, were on board the ship.

Do you have any tips and advice for mothers returning back into the workforce?

1. Have confidence in yourself.
2. Don’t underestimate your intelligence.
3. Make sure you do your homework whichever career path you are in, and make sure you are on top of the latest within your industry.
4. Embrace the fact that you are going to look at a work and family balance. Appreciate the time you have with your children.
5. Treat yourself to something special whether it be a new outfit, haircut or a treatment, something that makes you feel good about yourself.

What would be your top 5 key pieces you would suggest for busy mothers?

Out of all the women I have styled, I am most admirable of those that juggle being a mother, looking after the household and making a living. Their determination to get things done blows me away! As they’re time poor, they have very little (if any) time for shopping, let alone spending time in-front of the wardrobe choosing outfits to wear each day. They also tend to grab garments in a rush, settling for “that will do”, rather than ones they feel great in, and slowly, they lose their self confidence in their image. This can all be avoided with a clever wardrobe and you can look stylish every day.

Keep your wardrobe simple, organised and compact, filled with pieces that can be mixed and matched to take you through each area of your lifestyle. A “small smart” wardrobe trumps an overflowing one of “nothing to wear” any day.

One of the most common questions I get asked is: “What garments are worth investing money in?”. The key pieces are it. These garments will become the core of your wardrobe, and when picked wisely, they will stick by you year after year. I have so many I want to share with you, but I’ll stick to 5 (for now). As they change each season, the top 5 “go-to” pieces I suggest for busy mothers in Autumn/Winter are:

1. The all important flattering denim: Go for the ones with a little stretch so bending down and running after the kids is easy. Opt for a high rise over a low rise to stay comfortable, and make sure you have the right fit for your body shape. Dress up or dress down.
2. The “boyfriend blazer”: There are so many of these around in so many colours and prints – chose one that suits your personality. As this blazer is not so structured and restrictive, it will still allow you to move like a gymnast after your kids. Wear it with a t-shirt, shirt or knit, over denim, a skirt or trousers.  The beauty of the blazer is that you will look put-together and effortlessly stylish in any situation, even when you don’t feel it.
3. Your go-to comfortable shoes:  Now this is where your personal preference comes into it. Loafers and ballet flats are a massive trend and will continue to be due to their elegant versatility. Boots are very easy to wear, or for those women that can run laps in their heels, a closed toe wedge will be your hero. Whichever one you choose, ensure you go a leather pair that will take the punches (and one that you feel powerful in).
4. Scarf (or 5): Accessorising is the perfect way to move a mediocre outfit into a stylish one. However, necklaces and earrings can be very painful to wear when you have babies or toddlers in the “I want to touch everything” stage. Instead, wear a scarf thrown around your décolletage, and switch between a selection of 5 or so, to change the look of your outfit.
5. The emergency dress: An event suddenly comes up and the last thing you want to do is take the screaming kids around the shopping centre? The emergency dress will save you every time. Choose one that is a classic cut and design so it’ll never date, and ensure it fits you like a glove. One definite prerequisite: you think “I am beautiful” when you slip it on. You’ll fall in love with it every time you wear it.

Kelly Baker-Jamieson Edible Blooms
www.edibleblooms.com.au

Who inspires you?  My Mum – she has a very understated way of guiding me and giving advice.  It still amazes me how she is consistently right about things!  I hope I can be the same gentle guide for my own children.

How do you balance work and motherhood?

Juggling skills / acrobatics / circus performances come to mind as I think of balancing the two! Whilst there is no such thing as perfect work and home balance, I try to get it as right as possible by writing lists that combine both sets of responsibilities – next to catching up with a key business partner is closely followed by a reminder to buy new nappies.  It is possible for women to have it all – after all, changing hats through the day is no big ask for any woman that loves a chance to dress up!

How has motherhood changed your life? 

Life is richer as a mother, in both love and experiences.  I wouldn’t change it for the world but it’s definitely added a new complexity to fitting everything into my day.

What is your favourite make-up product? 

Mascara – I don’t leave the house without it.

What is your all-time favourite wardrobe staple?

I love my ballet flats – high heels took a back step when I left my corporate career to start up Edible Blooms and I haven’t looked back.

What advise do you have for the Mothers Get Inspired readers?

 Always remember the glass is half full and surround yourself with positive ‘can do’ people.  Life is too short not to have fun and follow your dreams!

Thank you Kelly Baker-Jamieson for both your time and sharing your insight with the Mothers Get Inspired readers! Desmore

How do you keep inspired in the world of motherhood?

“I’ve been a stay at home mom for 10 months and I’ve loved every second. Our daughter, Jordan has brought more love and laughter into our hearts and home… I’ve recently started a business called JaYQ Consulting which I run from home. I love the fact that I am a mommy and a business woman…it makes me feel great that I can see to Jordan’s needs and help my customers find the perfect maternity clothes, bags and shoes”.

Can you name one fashion and beauty essential you cannot live without?

“I love my big handbags with pumps…and a dab of cherry lip gloss”.

Do you have a favourite restaurant?

“At the moment I love Simply Asia”.

Any fashion and beauty advice for the Mothers Get Inspired readers?

“Always wear something that you are comfortable in. It shows when you aren’t”.

Thank you Jacqueline Zeeman for your time.

Today I had the pleasure of meeting one of Hollywood’s finest make-up artists Donna Mee. Her notable achievements include working with a string of musicians, celebrities and models such as Rachel Hunter and Cindy Crawford, training the Trainers of Estee Lauder corporation, being the first non-PhD status individual to be published in a medical journal for her article on medical makeup for laser scar removal patients, producing her own line of makeup brushes and finally in 1997 opening her own makeup school, Empire Academy of Makeup located in California.

Donna Mee is extremely talented, knowledgeable and most certainly doesn’t beat around the bush. She has a “tell it like it is” approach to teaching and educating. I love and appreciate her honestly. I can’t wait to purchase her books (coming soon), so excited.  In our make-up class today Donna had talked about colour therapy and the use of colour on the eyes. I would urge all my readers to visit her website http://donnameeinc.com to learn more about the talented make-up extraordinaire. By educating both her students and clients Donna gives us the tools to apply our make-up with confidence.

Thank you Donna for sharing your wisdom and knowledge with us today.

Questions from the readers.

Q What are your expert tips for hiding dark circles?

A Chantecaille stress repair concentrate

Q What product would you recommend for crows feet?

A Elizabeth Arden 8 hour cream

Q Do you have any quick and easy make-up tips for mothers?

A Apply a navy mascara to perk up tired eyes and apply a blue grey eyeliner to open the eyes.

After sixteen years as a keen observer of behind-the-scenes rag trade action, Rebecca Thompson decided the time was right to bring her own line of deliciously different clothing and accessories into the spotlight. That was over 9 years ago and since then, Rebecca Thompson aficionados and dedicated frill seekers continue to form an ever-growing league.

Her melting pot style and timeless quality has struck a chord with the Australian press and television industry, with the inimitable Rebecca Thompson style being featured in the enormously popular Secret Life of Us, Rove Live and in more than one celebrity marquee at every Spring Racing Carnival since the year 2000.

Stellar style mavens who had to have a piece of the Rebecca Thompson pie include international superstars Paris Hilton, Reece Witherspoon, Halle Berry and Sienna Miller. Australia’s own Toni Collette, and local celebrities Kate Ceberano, Catriona Rowntree, Kate Langbroek, Giaan Rooney, Georgie Parker, Claudia Karvan, Corinne Grant and more.

Rebecca keeps one step ahead of her self-proclaimed focus on quality and cutting edge diversity by capturing the fabrics, styles and indeed, the attitudes of far away places. Her designs feature subtle cultural kick backs from fact-finding missions to London, New York, LA, India and Hong Kong amongst others, adding a unique global perspective to a distinctly Australian label.

Interestingly, Rebecca Thompson lives 3 to 4 months in Delhi, with her “Indian family” who have completely adopted her. It is here that she sources fabrics and inspiration for her collections. For the rest of the year she resides at home in Melbourne.

Rebecca Thompson can be found at over 45 boutiques worldwide, including fashion pace-setters like Fred Segal Los Angeles, and at home Orson & Blake, Toscana and Sana.

Please visit – www.rebeccathompson.com.au

What is your favourite food?

At the moment I’m obsessed with anything that contains goats fetta. Tonight I’m cooking a Donna Hay fig and fetta pappardelle recipe.

What is your favourite wardrobe staple?

Totally loving my signature style caftan with colourful embroidery. Its a staple style that we continue to produce with new embroideries and necklines. The shape remains the same. Its a winner. This season we have  made it in gingham with Mexican style bird embroidery or in a weekend getaway resort white cotton with bright colourful thread work. Its a must have wardrobe essential.

If you were only allowed one make-up item with you, what would it be?

No hesitation, Christian Dior Noir waterproof black eyeliner, it instantly changes my face when I line the inner lid of my eye.

What would be your favourite holiday destination?

I haven’t had a break for 5 years, not a real holiday, so I’ve just booked a weeks getaway to Bali for my family. A beautiful villa in Seminyak with a private pool. I’m counting down the days till we jet away and I can read a magazine cover to cover.

If you had five minutes to yourself, what would you do?

Answer a ten minute interview with you guys  or call my bestie and chat to her about her day.

Rebecca’s favourite wardrobe staple her signature style caftan with colourful embroidery.

PS. Thank you Rebecca Thompson for taking time out of your busy schedule to answer my 10 minutes with… interview .

Natalie Becker is an award-wining international actress and voice-artist whose portfolio includes various prestigious high profile productions and broadcasts in film, television and radio. Recent film projects include “The World Unseen” based on the best –selling novel by author and director Shamim Sarif, for which Natalie won a 2009 SAFTA (South African Film and Television Award) for Best Supporting Actress in a Feature Film for her role as “Farah”, and which garnered numerous international awards. Natalie plays opposite John Malkovich in the role of “Soraya” in the movie “Disgrace” based on J. M Coetzee’s novel, released worldwide in 2009.  She filmed “The Deal” alongside William H. Macy and Meg Ryan and starred in “Scorpion King 2: Rise of a Warrior”, a Universal Pictures Film, as the character “Astarte” winning the role from a number of handpicked actresses internationally. Natalie plays the role of “Ariad” in the BBC drama “Atlantis”, for March 2011 screening.

Natalie’s conscious living television show, ‘Free Spirit’ won a 2008 SAFTA (South African Film and Television Award) for Best Magazine Show with Natalie as presenter. She presented and produced the 7-10pm slot called ‘Cape Town after Dark’ on Good Hope FM – a radio station with one of the highest listenership’s in the Western Cape. Her CV includes shows on all the major SA Television channels, E-TV, M-Net and SABC with Intertainment Africa, Solo, The Cosmo Show, Top Billing, Mega Millions Game show, Pillow Talk, Free Spirit and Tropika Island of Treasure.

Natalie Becker is a graduate of the University of Cape Town and Meridian Leadership Program and as spokesperson, ambassador and actress, is involved with social responsibility forums, literacy programs, social development and life skills projects. She developed and hosted “Best you can Be”, a series of seminars and workshops aimed at inspiring and empowering young adults, hosting various speakers, including Dr John Demartini and his ‘Young Adults Inspired Destiny Program’. An icon, Natalie is also an ambassador for the organization MOT, which empowers youth with life skills training to make conscious choices with courage.

A sought after Speaker and Master of Ceremonies, Natalie Becker hosts numerous high -profile corporate, social and business events. Her clients include Taj Hotels, Resorts and Palaces, British Airways, V&A Waterfront, Provincial Government and The Nelson Mandela Day Ubuntu Festival.

Natalie is a writer and her work “The Tao of Nat”, an inspirational manifesto for children, has been published by the ‘Centre for the Book’ in Cape Town. She has also been the Lifestyle Editor for The Deal magazine. Natalie’s interactive multimedia website www.nataliebeckerlive.com is lifestyle platform and engages individuals and organizations in conscious and joyful living and meaningful contribution.

Have you always wanted to be in the spotlight?

“I’d always been quite a loner as a child, very much an individual, and spent lots of time on my own writing poetry and stories, drawing and sketching and I guess developing my imagination.  I know that I always wanted to be someone who makes a meaningful contribution to humanity and I guess my life and life’s work ( i deleted the word  ‘it’) evolved into having the platforms to do that, where I get to do what I love and call it work, and it happens to be in the public arena”!

What type of child (and teen) were you at school (Which high school did you matricualte and where/what did you study after matric)?

“I was very much an individual as a child, very introspective and quite a loner who didn’t fit in, though I must say I didn’t really feel a need to. I think I was pretty odd J It never made sense to give up your sense of self or agree to things you don’t agree with just to be part of a group and just because everyone else did. Spending lots of time on my own , I became highly creative and loved writing, sketching and painting.  I also learnt how to drive and shoot at an early age, rifles and guns, which ( I erased the word ‘that’) was quite fun. My Irish stepdad Joseph Jennings, who made sure we were brought up on a mixture of Irish, country, classical and opera music also instilled in me a love of classical music and we grew up on Opera at the Artscape theatre ( called the Nico Malan at the time) and Symphony Orchestra recitals at the City Hall. He also insisted that  my brothers Nicholas and Luke and I choose a musical instrument to play: the guitar, violin or bagpipes. Nobody really went for  the bagpipes but I am a classical guitarist and my brothers play the violin.  So you can imagine the cacophony of sounds that came from our home on any given day! I was also very fond of animals and had all kinds of animals pets including cats, dogs, rabbits, ducks and fish. As an adult that love has translated into me being a scuba diver where I am surrounded by the most beautiful fish and marine life and also I also love horse-riding. I matriculated at Livingstone High and went on to study Economics and Industrial Psychology as UCT and graduated with a BSocSc ( Bachelor of Social Sciences) degree.”

What was your first job in the industry? (as well as first job ever)

“My career in this industry started after I had been in corporate for 2 years and gave it all up after realising that  I was not really living but just existing and was trying to be an ideal of what I thought success was. I went through a challenging but ultimately liberating period where I started realising that we are powerful creators who co- create our lives and can live our dream lives.

I started reading books like Dr Joseph Murphy’s “The Power of your Subconcious Mind” and started affirming and creating with my words, thoughts and choices the life I wanted to live. And as soon as I gave myself permission to live the life I really wanted and not what I thought was expected of me or other people’s ideals of what success means, the universe responded and life started flowing. Doors opened and I didn’t know what lay ahead but I walked thought them and I know for sure that we are always guided to what is for our highest good and greatest joy, so I trusted and took the steps and made conscious choices and was astounded at the results. Months later,  I serendipitously and unexpectedly, met Shado Twala and Clarence Ford at Heart FM and they offered me an audition, which they liked and I got my first radio job! I think my first job ever  in radio was at a radio booth of a local supermarket calling out the specials, playing music  and announcing lost kids.”

People often have an idea of what a celeb is? How do you view the term celeb? What’s your life like as a celeb?

“I like to think and I always have thought that the term ‘Celebrity’ meant to be Celebrated by people for something you’ve achieved or represent. Celebrated as in paid tribute to. It’s been a positive terms for me. Everyone has a different take on the word and concept and recently  I realised for many people it’s become a ‘label” and associated with things that don’t necessarily resonate with me.  So, while for me, it can have a profoundly positive connotation in terms of my definition of it, I define myself as an artist, actor, writer and speaker because it’s more descriptive- it’s what I do. It feels more real.”

“I’m a creative person, an artist and actor, a writer and a speaker and I get to do what I love and call it work. It just happens to be in the public arena! J I am blessed and grateful. Anyone who has a public platform, is privileged to be able to inform people’s reality in a meaningful and profound way. That power comes with responsibility. We inform perceptions and perception creates the reality that we see around us each day. Before we open our mikes, write a line or utter a word, we have to make a choice about what we are creating in this world and act as though what we do makes a difference, because it does. Do we create more separation or more togetherness, more fear or more love, are we being destructive or constructive, do we encourage people to contract or expand, are we fostering suspicion and fear or connection and celebration of our differences and similarities.”

What makes a woman sexy?

“I do believe that self knowing gives us the confidence to be in our power and that is very sexy. People who radiate it have powerful certainty. It’s an energy rather than anything you could wear or the way you look.”

Dating? What do you find sexy attributes in a man/partner?

“I find a sense of humour very endearing. And someone who has a sense of humour and irony has usually thought about life a bit, lived a bit and they usually have some depth.”

You’re very spiritual. Were theere any moments/people/circumstances that influence your view point in life these days as well as religious beliefs. How so?

“I’m blessed to have my life touched in profound and wonderful ways but people I come across randomly as much as I am by my family and their amazing journeys. Through the TV show Free Spirit, I met and connected with so many inspiring and brilliant spiritual and thought leaders and I am very grateful for that experience. Dr John Demartini’s Breakthrough Experience Workshop had a profound effect on me in that it liberated me from out-dated beliefs and emotional baggage that I didn’t even know at the time was still affecting my behaviour and choices. It’s brilliant and Dr DeMartini doesn’t stop until you break through.

Experiencing the crises and then really the rebirth I described in one of the paragraphs above, was a profound turning point for me, when I discovered  the power of conscious choice and that we’re the co creators of our magnificent reality and truly the master of our destinies. I learned to create from the inside out and learned the power we all have to do this. This power and the responsibility lies with each and every one of us.”

What makes Natalie spirtually happy?

“For me, the term spiritual simply means living, as we are spiritual beings having a physical experience, which is just one of the many planes of existence. Life is a profound gift and we have to realise what it means to be here now, when humanity is just beginning to discover and experience its own power.  We must learn to look at the world with different eyes and learn to appreciate and embrace all that makes us who we are. Happiness is a matter of perception and attitude. Choose it.”

When you’re not busy filming, working and in the public eye, who is Natalie when she’s at home?

“I like to spend time unwinding , in silence and in meditation and reading, quieting my mind and  being inspired by what comes forth when we are not thinking and doing but simply being. I connect to myself in those moments  and to all that is and breathe it in. Those times refresh and refuel me. I love the ocean and try to swim and scuba dive wherever I go on vacation and also when I get a chance here. I also love connecting with nature and horse-riding exhilarates me. Spending time and enjoying an exquisite meal while listening to some good music with close friends, loved one and family also grounds and re-connects me to pleasure and the value of closeness and sharing. And I simply love picnics- On the beach or anywhere green!  I also love listening to classical music, theatre or opera and I’m a huge fan of dancing- Tango and anything Latin is my favourite!”